Now that in part 1
we’ve taken care of questions regarding fasting and abstinence, let’s focus on the meaning of Lent.
We all know that Lent is the 40 days leading us to Easter. But what really is Lent? Why are penance and suffering associated with Lent? What is the value of suffering? Let me tell you the story of my friend Eileen.*
Eileen has a great husband and a beautiful daughter. They have a nice little house in a good part of town. Her husband Paul* has a good job. They have a car. Her daughter Melanie* goes to a good school. They are a good Catholic family. They go to Church and they're involved in their Parish. Eileen has Multiple Sclerosis, but she's doing very well. It is not advanced. Life is good and full of many blessings.
One day, when Melanie is about 13, Eileen finds out that Paul has been cheating on her. In a second their life has changed. Eileen can't live with this betrayal. She leaves Paul. Instantly, Melanie's life has changed completely: from living in a nice house, with a car, in a nice neighbourhood – to living in a two-bedroom apartment with her now, single Mom, in a not-so-nice area of town and having to take public transit. Eileen's MS starts to advance. Now, Melanie has to spend more time at home, helping her Mom. She is now 15, a time when she would rather be spending more time with her friends. But she is coping. Life for Eileen is getting harder and harder: divorce and disease, but still, life continues; they make the most of it; they’re still involved in their parish. There is still contact with Paul, who spends time with Melanie and visits occasionally. Then one day, when Melanie is 17, just a few days after Christmas, she is driving home after going out to a friend's birthday. No one has been drinking and there is no speeding. The weather is not bad. Melanie changed cars to be with a friend who was going to be driving alone. The car hits a patch of ice, spins out into the opposite lane into an incoming vehicle – that is not speeding, just going the legal 60km/h – but hits straight onto the passenger side where Melanie is sitting, effectively crushing her. She is unconscious and shortly after she reaches the hospital, dies. 17 years old. Divorce, disease and now death. I heard the news of Melanie's death shortly after I heard about the Tsunami in South Asia. Divorce, disease, death and disaster….
And so I spent my Christmas season trying to make sense of this; trying to see why suffering exists; why is it such a part of our lives?
We are told that suffering glorifies us. Suffering sanctifies us. That means that suffering makes us Saints. This seems completely ridiculous to me. However if you look at the Middle Ages – a time in history that is not well-known for technical or scientific advances and not well-known for great Church leadership – this time produced many Saints; Saints that took suffering seriously. There's Saint Rose of Lima (1586 –1617) who wore a cilice, a belt with spikes on it, wore a hair shirt and rubbed pepper on her face so she wouldn't be attractive. There are so many others. I guess I don't need to tell you about all the people who willingly gave up everything to be poor; who made strange choices like choosing to walk barefoot, even in winter! Look at St. Francis of Assisi (1182-1226). Did all these people become Saints because
of their suffering? I don't think so. Certain suffering may sanctify us, but that doesn't mean we have to go looking for suffering!
If I were to ask you why there’s suffering in the world, maybe you'd tell me that it’s because suffering makes us better people; because we learn from our suffering; it makes us stronger; it helps us understand those who are less fortunate and it gives us an opportunity to be compassionate to others and to realise that we need God. I guess that's why we have so many clichés about darkness preceding light.
A cliché is an expression or phrase that expresses a stereotype. Like: “It has to be dark for you to see the stars.” Or “in darkness is when the stars shine brightest.” Or, “It has to be raining for you to see the rainbow” or, “you have to climb through the thorns to get to the rose.” These are clichés. But they are clichés because they are true. Here's another one: “Winter has to come before the Spring.” They all mean that we need to go through suffering in order to experience the good stuff. Suffering makes us better people. That's the way it is. There is something about this created world (and fallen world) that simply is that way. But why? Why does it have to be that way? God is God; God could have had anything make us better people. Anything could sanctify us. Why would salvation depend on suffering? Why can't it be something else? Why can't salvation depend on partying? I would say that those clichés are true also in that they point to something about the essence of God.
God became a human being and lived on earth as a human, with all the human things: born in a stable, got lost in Jerusalem, had to go to school and make friends; had to work hard – life in those days wasn't easy. Then he was arrested, tortured in the most horrible way and killed in the most horrible way. That's the God we believe in: A God who is arrested, tortured and killed. A God who reigns by hanging on a Cross. It makes no sense. That's why St. Paul says it's a folly (1 Cor 1:18-25). I don't get it but I don't think we have to understand it. That's why St. Paul also calls it a stumbling block (1 Cor 1:23). But God doesn't ask me to understand. That’s the story of Job. Job goes through incredible suffering and God never tells him why. Jesus goes through incredible suffering and God is absent (Mt 27:46; Mk 15:34). [I wrote a reflection on the Cross
a few years ago and explored many of these themes.]
But we know that suffering can be redemptive. There are people who suffer for no reason; that suffering has no meaning. But there are people who suffer out of love. There are people who offer their suffering because of love. That suffering becomes redemptive. That’s the suffering of Jesus on the Cross. That’s why His suffering is redemptive. That’s the suffering that saves.
I may not understand why we have to suffer**, but I know that God is a God who suffers with us. That acceptance is also redemptive. Lent is a great opportunity to remind us of this love. Our small acts of penance are a reminder of this love. Lent encourages us to offer up our suffering out of love.
Come back next week
and let’s see what Scriptures have to say about all this.
*Not their real names.
**For a real good in-depth look at suffering, you may want to watch In Your Faith
, Season 1; Episode 2, (If God is a God of Love) Why do Bad Things Happen?
You may also be interested in Fr. Rosica's Lenten and Easter Reflections
, available now on DVD.
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